1 Corinthians (Qorintiyim Aleph) 7:32 (ISR Version)

32. And I wish you to be without concern. He who is unmarried is concerned about the matters of the Master - how to please the Master.

When I was a little girl, I envisioned myself being married by 21, children by 24 or 25, career booming and a big house that was surrounded by a fence. And let's not forget the cute little dog as the cherry on top of that dream.

However, that ended up not being my reality. I'll be turning 30 in a couple months and no ring on this finger still. To most people, this would look like I'm a failure as a woman. And then there's people that might think that something is simply wrong with me.

And it seems to be no stopping the main questions that a lot of us get asked the most, "When are you going to get married?" "Are you dating anyone?" "Are you still with that guy?"

Oh, and we can't forget these kinds of comments: "Men are a headache. You're better off single." "You aren't getting any younger." "All the good men have been snatched up already."

Isn't it crazy some of the things we hear sometimes? Even slightly comical in a way.

One thing I will say though, marriage has always been something I seeked. I craved that intimacy with someone. To grow old together and share all of the highs and lows of life with that person. I was someone that was willing to give more than I received. Bending over backwards to please whomever I was with. Safe to say, I was considered a "hopeless romantic."

And with doing all of that, I left myself open to being manipulated, mistreated, taken advantage of and everything inbetween. All because I didn't truly know what love was. So I was out and about, roaming around aimlessly, looking for someone to love me. Because to be honest, I didn't love myself back then.

It wasn't until I surrendered my life to The Most High, Yahuah, that I started to see what HE wanted for my life, instead of what I wanted for my life.

Our Heavenly Father has showed me the greatest love of all. The kind of love I had been searching for my whole life. And with this love, He has shown me how to be patient. And I am still a work in progress in that area.

But I see my value now. I have learned that it's not a race to the finish line. It's not about being married by 30 or rushing to get to a certain point in my life. I know it's easier said than done, to not get caught up in what those around you say or do. And it's even worse when everyone around you is getting married left and right.

Even with that, keep in mind that marriage is sacred to The Most High. It's not something any of us can just jump into without first seeking Yahuah. So I had to learn to shut out the things around me and keep my eyes on The Father.

And as hard as it is to admit, I started to see that maybe it is me that's the problem. Self reflection is important in this walk with Yahuah. Sometimes it pays to look in the mirror and own our mess. I had to take accountability for the role I played in my life thus far. And the role I played in previous relationships that I shouldn't have.

For example: Sexual Immorality was a big one. Controlling was another big one. Low self-esteem played a huge part too. And many more things that I had to take accountability for.

Recently, while I was having my alone time with Yahuah, He led me to a certain scripture that basically showed me to not be desperate for a man. And then He reassured me and comforted me with another scripture (Isaiah 4:4-6). He will be my protection and shield me. He will be my covering.

And yes, I crave to have someone hold me tight at night (who doesn't), but I know that The Father is working on me personally. And He is working on you too. He is perfecting me for when He does bring that special someone and I together. And this time, it will not be toxic, and it will not fail. It will be ordained by The Father Himself. Now, THAT is worth waiting for.

We are moving on Yahuah's timing, not ours.

This leads me to the verse I shared above. 1 Corinthians 7:32.

While we are in this season, it would be wise of us to keep our eyes focused on The Father & Son. Seeking to do the will of Yahuah. And when He sees fit, He will present us to that man who is deserving of us. And we shall be a blessing to that man. As he will be for us as well. The Most High does not want us to concern or worry ourselves about things such as 'if we're ever going to get married.'

Once we learn how to properly love The Father and be loyal to Him first and foremost, then we will know how to properly love the man He has ordained for us. And this is a big one, we will also know how to receive love.

I encourage you sisters, to remain focused on your purpose in life that Yahuah has for you and let the rest fall into place. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. You have value and our Heavenly Father wants nothing but the best for you.

Take this time to hit the gym, meditate on the Word, work on producing fruits of the spirit, find what happiness means to you, work on personal goals, cooking skills, and mental stability just to name a few things. Keep yourself busy so that you don't even have time to dwell on a man.

And thank Yahuah in advance for what He is doing in your life. Thank Him for how far He has brought you. Thank Him for all the failed relationships that He saved you from. We're counting it all joy.

I know it gets lonely sometimes, but that's when we have to remind ourselves that we are never alone. We have the greatest relationship of all. The Father & Son. Everything else is a bonus my sister.

I will leave you with this scripture as well.

1 Corinthians (Qorintiyim Aleph) 7: 34-35

34. There is a difference between a wife and a maiden. The unmarried woman is concerned about the matters of the Master, that she might be set-apart both in body and in spirit. But she who is married is concerned about the matters of the world - how to please her husband.

35. And this I say for your own good, not to put a restraint on you, but for what is proper, and to attend to the Master without distraction.